Beatlemania? I got it!

A little over a year ago, I was procrastinating with my writing (shocker, I know, haha). It was the middle of the night and I was sitting at my dining room table, laptop open, searching for anything to do other than write, when lo and behold, I found a Procrastinator’s Paradise: Carpool Karaoke, a segment on The Late Late Show with James Corden.

YouTube and I have a love/hate relationship. By that, I mean that *I love it*, but *it hates my writing career*. I fell into that Carpool Karaoke hole so fast that I got whiplash. But in the bottom of the YouTube black hole in the Carpool Karaoke realm, I came across the episode where James spends time with Paul McCartney, published on June 21, 2018.

The segment was perfect. Twenty-three minutes of pure joy. Even watching parts of it to write this post, I’m smiling from ear to ear. At the end, Paul “surprises” a group of locals at a bar with a live performance (I’m not sure if it was truly a surprise, but the patrons of the pub seemed happy enough). It’s amazing that the people at the venue, young and old, are so absolutely thrilled to see him up there on the stage. During the other parts of the Carpool Karaoke segment, Paul seemed so… regular–talking about his past, giving James a tour of Liverpool, and telling stories. But he’s so not regular. For one thing, he was knighted. But moreso, to me, I couldn’t believe that this man (along with the rest of the quartet), had affected so many lives and touched so many people across generations, around the world.

It gave me feelings and I cried, sitting there alone, past midnight, at my dining room table. What can I say? The whole thing felt beautiful to me.

Then, about six months ago, I got a new car. Along with the car came complimentary SiriusXM radio, and The Beatles channel. Of course, it’s my first preset channel (yes, even outranking Pearl Jam).

Every time I sing along with a Beatles song, it makes me think. I’m a child of the 80’s, but I know so many Beatles songs by heart. I mean, I know a lot of songs from my childhood, but I also remember hearing those songs over and over. Fangirling over the bands. Listening to them on the radio.

But the Beatles are different. With the exception of “I Want to Hold Your Hand,” which I was assigned to learn during my short stint as an organ player in my early teens (yes, I took organ lessons and had an organ in my house, and I played the Beatles on it… crazy, I know), I never fangirled over the Beatles. Neither did my parents. In fact, if my parents owned a Beatles album, I never saw it in their collection.

Why do I know so many Beatles songs? Are they so engrained in our culture that we grow up with them and don’t even realize? When my son was a baby, my husband used to sing “Yellow Submarine” to him and dance him around his lap. “Magical Mystery Tour” reminds me of a purple sequined costume from a dance recital. “Strawberry Fields Forever” conjures up images of a neighborhood girl named Darcie, maybe around age 12, who claimed that as her favorite song and constantly drew pictures of strawberries. “Can’t Buy Me Love” is also an 80’s movie starring Patrick Dempsey.

(Funny aside: When I’d hear “Hey Bulldog,” I always thought they were singing “Egg Foo Young” and even today I still sing it that way. See? Engrained, even with wrong lyrics.)

Songs by The Beatles are everywhere, like a go-to comfort food for the musical soul. I don’t know much about the technical aspects of the arrangements, but to me, it’s sort of like they’re simple but meaningful. Catchy, but different somehow.

41OU-9InE2L._SX327_BO1,204,203,200_I just purchased this book:  SHOUT! The Beatles and their Generation, by Philip Norman, and I’m going to read up on the group. Granted, I know I’m about sixty years late to this party, but I think I’ve finally caught Beatlemania myself!

Don’t get me wrong, I understand there are critics. I respect that. But love them or hate them, there’s no denying the impact that The Beatles had on our world. “Sir James Paul McCartney” is 77 years old (thank you, Wikipedia), and he can still bring a crowd to its feet, as evidenced in the Carpool Karaoke segment (which I hope you all watch… come on, I even embedded it for you with my fancy WordPress skillz!). The fact that my 15-year-old is okay with me leaving the Beatles channel on when he’s in the car is further evidence of their magic, because my 15-year-old basically hates everything I listen to.

I’m looking forward to getting my new book tomorrow and reading about the Fab Four and their musical history. I may come back here and share more. I know you won’t mind because BEATLEMANIA is EVERYWHERE, even in 2019, even on WOAW.

I leave you with these sweet, simple lyrics from “I’ll Follow the Sun” from the Beatles for Sale album, 1964. According to the interwebs this is one of the earliest songs, which Paul wrote in 1959 at age 16.

One day, you’ll look
To see I’ve gone
For tomorrow may rain, so
I’ll follow the sun. 
Someday, you’ll know
I was the one
But tomorrow may rain, so
I’ll follow the sun.
And now the time has come
And so, my love, I must go,
And though I lose a friend
In the end you will know.
Oh-oh-oh
One day, you’ll find
That I have gone
But tomorrow may rain, so
I’ll follow the sun.
Yeah, tomorrow may rain, so
I’ll follow the sun.

 

As always, thanks for reading.

Cave Dwelling with Gobo and Eugene

Greetings, from “the editing cave” where I’m busy revising The Love Square. Here’s a list of some things I’ve learned:

  1. I have a lot of “staring” happening. He stared at her, she stared at him, etc. etc. I’m working on it, people.
  2. There’s no good word for a female half-laugh– “giggle” sounds too silly and “chuckled” sounds like something an old man would do. “Stifled a laugh” works sometimes. “Scoffed” seems weird. Hopefully you can help me out with this. Anyone?
  3. Before submitting my manuscript for publishing, I went through and took out all of my seemingly unnecessary commas. However, my editor has been adding many of the deleted commas back in. I’m never going to understand commas. Still, love, them, though, and, don’t, care.
  4. I could spend the rest of my life editing this manuscript. In the beginning, I found myself re-starting at page one every night and finding something to change or add or subtract each time. I had to cut myself off and keep the wheels moving forward.
  5. I like editing. It’s nice to get lost in your story and your characters in such an in-depth way. During NaNo and while writing that first draft, I tend to spit out the words just to get them on the page. With editing, the real writing tools come out and you can apply things you’ve learned. Every sentence receives your undivided attention.

So that’s where I am. Muddling through, hoping to make it better with each pass. Is it Hemingway? No. Is it the best book I’m ever going to write? Probably not. I hope to learn more and more as I progress down this path. Still, I’m confident it’s a good contemporary love story that’s worth the reader’s time.

Onto something irrelevantly relevant. Who remembers Fraggle Rock?

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Ah, the Fraggles! Weren’t they the greatest? My kids have the first season on DVD. The coolest thing about the DVD set is that it comes with a replica of Jim Henson’s notebook, dated April 3, 1981, with his thoughts while developing Fraggle Rock.

This discovery (we’ve had the DVD set for years and I had no idea the replica notebook was included) made me so freaking happy. Look at some sample pics:

It’s his actual notes!

Now, look at all those scribbles. Back in ’81 before the days of Word, this was how editing was done, I guess. I love that he used a notebook like this to scribble his “concept for an international children’s television show” called: “The Woozle Show or Woozle World or The World of Woozles or Woozle-Woozle!”

In the notebook he describes his idea for Doc (“the old codger is warm and lovable but you probably wouldn’t call him bright”), Sprocket the dog (“The Dog, whose name is George, is of course a Muppet . . . the Woozles drive him crazy”), and obviously, the “Woozles” (“Woozles are pretty wacky, have a lot of energy, and when all else fails, somebody shouts “Let’s sing about it!” and they do”).

But I think the best part of the notebook is when JH describes the meaning of the show:

Our first job is to make this world a lot of fun to visit. It is a high energy raucous musical romp. It’s a lot of silliness. It’s wonderful.

However, the second thing that we’re doing with this show is saying something. The show has a direction and a point of view. This will be beneath the surface, and if anybody becomes very aware of it, we will have missed.

What the show is really about is people getting along with people, and understanding the delicate balances of the natural world . . . . We will make the point that everything affects everything else, and that there is a beauty and harmony of life to be appreciated.

I just love that– “A beauty and harmony of life to be appreciated.”

I also appreciated reading the notes in Jim Henson’s handwriting, with scribbled out words and added carets and other editing marks. For example, in the quote above when he writes “we will have missed,” originally his notes said, “we will have failed.” He crossed out the “failed” and opted for “missed.” I think that says a lot, don’t you?

As for Fraggle Rock , in my opinion, it succeeded in its mission. I enjoy watching it now as much as I did as a kid. It transcends generations for exactly the reasons that JH contemplated–on the surface it’s funny and high energy, but underneath are subtle undertones that resonate without overwhelming the viewer.

While Fraggles are lovable and silly and fun, unfortunately there’s an opposite end of that spectrum. His name is Eugene Peppermint and HE’S BACK:

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He’s creepy and weird and not one bit of fun. He is the anti-Fraggle (I do think he’s happy to be free of my underwear drawer though).

Of course I forgot he was supposed to come out yesterday. I thought maybe the kids wouldn’t care. After all, last year we had a conversation about how parents move the elf with Christmas magic.

No such luck. Either the kids forgot about that conversation, didn’t understand what we were saying, or chose to ignore it in light of the miracle of the holidays. Meh. Here’s to hoping this year is Eugene’s last hurrah. In the meantime, I’ll suffer through another season of the dumbest thing ever invented. 🙂

And that’s the news from my camp here in NJ. Next up on WOAW: Answers to Friends trivia! As always, thank you for reading and enjoy the rest of your November.

Reflections on the Eve of Martin Luther King, Jr. Day

This past summer we traveled to Washington, D.C. for a short vacation and visited the MLK Memorial. You can read about the memorial on the National Park Service website by clicking here.

The Memorial is breathtaking. The statue of Dr. King is huge, and his famous quotes are carved into the walls surrounding. Here is a picture from our trip:

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Little M. at the MLK Memorial
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.” – 1963

A description of the memorial, from washington.org:

The centerpiece of the memorial is a 30-foot statue of Dr. King. His likeness is carved into the Stone of Hope, which emerges powerfully from two large boulders. The two boulders, which started as one, represent the Mountain of Despair. The boulders are split in half to give way to the Stone of Hope, which appears to have been thrust forward toward the horizon in a great monolithic struggle. The Stone of Hope and the Mountain of Despair together represent the soul-stirring words from Dr. King’s history-making “I Have a Dream” speech. On the visible side of the Stone of Hope, the text from King’s famed 1963 speech is cut sharply into the rock: “Out of the mountain of despair, a stone of hope.” Every visitor enters through the Mountain of Despair and tours the memorial as if moving through the struggle that Dr. King faced during his life. Visitors end in the open freedom of the plaza. The solitary Stone of Hope stands proudly in the plaza, where the civil rights leader gazes over the Tidal Basin toward the horizon, forever encouraging all citizens to strive for justice and equality.

Here’s an excerpt from Dr. King’s Nobel Peace Prize acceptance speech of December 10, 1964.

I accept the Nobel Prize for Peace at a moment when 22 million Negroes of the United States of America are engaged in a creative battle to end the long night of racial injustice. I accept this award on behalf of a civil rights movement which is moving with determination and a majestic scorn for risk and danger to establish a reign of freedom and a rule of justice.

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Therefore, I must ask why this prize is awarded to a movement which is beleaguered and committed to unrelenting struggle; to a movement which has not won the very peace and brotherhood which is the essence of the Nobel Prize.

After contemplation, I conclude that this award which I receive on behalf of that movement is a profound recognition that nonviolence is the answer to the crucial political and moral question of our time – the need for man to overcome oppression and violence without resorting to violence and oppression. Civilization and violence are antithetical concepts. Negroes of the United States, following the people of India, have demonstrated that nonviolence is not sterile passivity, but a powerful moral force which makes for social transformation. Sooner or later all the people of the world will have to discover a way to live together in peace, and thereby transform this pending cosmic elegy into a creative psalm of brotherhood. If this is to be achieved, man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.

You can read the entire speech on the Nobel Prize website by clicking here. It’s a great speech, well worth your time.

Two years ago I posted about MLK day, amazed that Dr. King was only 39 years old when he was assassinated. You can see that post here.

Dr. King was born in 1929, so he’d be celebrating his 86th birthday this month. I wonder if things would be different today if he hadn’t been killed. How would his influence develop over the years? How would he feel about what’s going on politically and socially in the world? Maybe some of the recent horrible events, domestic and international, wouldn’t have happened at all.

Sadly, we will never know what he could have further accomplished. I bet it would have been significant.

May he rest in peace.

 

 

Pour Some Sugar

On the way to work today, Def Leppard’s “Pour Some Sugar on Me” played on the radio. That song always jets me back to high school at warp speed.

I sang along in the van. “Love is like a bomb, baby, c’mon get it on. Living like a lover with a red owwf on.”

Wait. What exactly is a “red owwf”? I never knew that line. Not in 1989 and still not in 2014.

In fact, I distinctly remember a late-eighties conversation with a girl named Leanne. Leanne was a classmate and fellow Def Leppard fan (we’d been to numerous DL concerts), who (hide your eyes, Mom) cut school with me one day to go to the beach. We sat on the beach, tanning, talking, and discussing that line for a nice chunk of time.

“Maybe it’s ‘red outfit on’?”
“But there aren’t enough syllables. Maybe it’s not red at all?”
“Like ‘real loaf on'”
“Yeah!”
(Break into fit of giggles)

Every time I hear the song, I think of Leanne. Eventually, we accepted that a “red owwf” was either something British or we just didn’t have the ears to hear it right.

Today as I sipped my morning coffee at my desk, I googled the line. According to azlyrics, the lyric is “Living like a lover with a radar phone.”

Of course, this begs the question: What on God’s green earth is a “radar phone” AND WHERE CAN I GET ONE?

Back in the old days, I’d get so mad when albums didn’t include lyrics. I’d camp on the floor with my ear to the speaker and hit rewind, stop, play, rewind, stop, play over and over on my cassette tape deck to figure out one measly word from a song. Sounds silly, but sometimes one word can make or break a song, especially to an emotional teenager. (Ready for your irrelevantly relevant factoid of the day? Case in point: Modern English’s “I’ll Stop the World and Melt With You” (1983-ish). My friend and I insisted that somewhere in the song the chorus changed to “I’ll Stop the World and Melt For You,” which totally changes the entire song. Melting “with” someone is different than melting “for” someone, right? A quick azlyrics search doesn’t reveal any secret switchover from the nice-I-want-to-date-you-and-love-you “with” to the wow-he-wants-to-like-MELT-for her “for.”)

When I got my hands on Journey’s Escape album, circa 1981, I was thrilled to find the lyrics inside. I copied the lyrics to every song, by hand, onto looseleaf for a friend. He was so happy when I gave it to him, even though Journey’s songs were relatively clear and easy to decipher. After all, I’d saved him hours of strenuous listening to figure out the words. Now he could read along without lyrics stress.

Remember when Michael Jackson’s “Billie Jean” was a topic of conversation? “But the chair is not my size.” “NO! It’s but the kid is not my son!”

Or The Police? “We are Cheerios, in a cereal bowl.” “Duh! It’s SPIRITS. We are SPIRITS in the MATERIAL WORLD.” “But what does that mean?” “Who cares? It has a good beat and you can dance to it!”

During that “Billie Jean” era, a girl named Kathy lived a few houses down the street from me. Kathy knew everything. EVERYTHING about Adam Ant (Perhaps you remember “Goody Two Shoes”? “Don’t drink don’t smoke. What do you do?”). She loved him more than life itself, which even back in the 80’s was ridiculously weird. Whenever we had a question about anything Ant-related, someone would say, “Let’s go ask Kathy.” We’d trek to her house on our bikes and bang on her door, ask our question, maybe debate a little. Kathy was our Adam Ant Wiki. The best part would be when debating turned into either, “You’re a reject!” with stomping and yelling and riding away, or “Let’s play Payday,” and we’d move on to something else.

But rounding the corner to my point (it’s here somewhere), the mystery of the lyric is now over. I wonder if I’ll still automatically sing “red owwf on” when I hear the Def Leppard song or if I’ll convert to “radar phone.” (I really NEED one of those, people!)

I miss wondering about lyrics, and miss wondering in general. Something positive must have developed from all that wondering we did with our friends on the street. Today, all debatable questions are answered in light speed with a Google search. What do kids even talk about these days?

All these memories from a Def Leppard song on the way to work! Who knew it would turn into a writing prompt!?

Have a nice night. Thanks for reading. I’m going to go Google “radar phone” now.

Dad’s “Magic”- A Guest Post by Linda (My Mom)

Hi Everyone! I’m still busy NaNo-ing. So far I’m doing well and I’m on track to finish. “Embracing the suck,” as they say.  In the meantime, WOAW keeps chugging along with a guest post by my mother, Linda.  You may recall that I wrote this post about my grandfather, my Gido.  That’s my mom’s dad.  My mom shares some memories below about her dad, my Gido.  Enjoy!

Some of my earliest and fondest memories of my Dad relate to food. I remember him standing at the stove stirring and flipping and I remember how much I wanted to do that too! (Remember, I was very young). It was like magic. One thing would go into the pot and something totally different and absolutely amazing would emerge. I especially loved Dad’s magic. Grandma was a great cook, but Dad was MAGIC!

He would go to the stove and turn on the burner and ask if I was hungry. I would tell him no, but he would go into the fridge and route around and bring out all sorts of leftovers. I watched, fascinated as he melted butter in the pan. Then a slice of three-day-old bologna. Sizzle, sizzle, flip then salt, always salt (I know, I know), followed by leftover mashed potatoes. Finished it off with two pancakes from Sunday’s breakfast et voila! A Daddy Sandwich.

I’d look on, horrified! YIKES! Who’d eat that? He’d set a plate down and gingerly placed the “sandwich” upon it. Then he made elaborate work of cutting it into quarters. Satisfied with his presentation, he’d cut a wedge and put it to his lips.

At this juncture, I’d pipe up, “Hey Dad, maybe I could have a taste?”

“You sure?” he’d ask.

“Yes,” I’d reply.

So I’d take a taste (Lord help me).  Then another. That’s when I would sit down, eat the whole thing, and send Dad packing back to the stove to make another for himself.

Dramatic pause as I eat and he cooks…

Enter my Little Sister and the scene begins again. She, however, is not impressed with the offering, and being six years my junior (plus being spoiled rotten) demanded another snack all together. So Dad, in his infinite patience (how hard could it be for a guy with three jobs to raise two little girls as a single parent?) asked her what she wanted. She, being spoiled and all, wanted everything we didn’t have.

So Dad worked his “magic.”

He pulled out a large loaf of Pita bread and sliced it open all the way around until it laid flat like two circles. He took butter and slathered it over both sides. When my sister asked where the ham was, Dad said this was a “Magic Daddy Sandwich” and the ham was invisible. Being young (and, may I add, not too bright) she bought that and was silenced.

The magic continued.

He reached for the sugar bowl, and here’s where he set the hook — he sprinkled sugar all over the buttered pita!

What? Sugar? On purpose?

But then came the best idea ever. Cinnamon. All over the top. WOW! He then put the two sides together, cut it into quarters, and there it was. Another Magic Daddy Sandwich.

Suddenly I remembered my lovely mashed potato, bologna and pancake delight and wondered why I had not held out for the good stuff. He always liked her best (not really…well, maybe).

But then I reallized something. She had the sugar, I had the mashed potato and bologna, but Dad had NADA. He watched us eat, ate whatever scraps we left on our plates, cleaned up the kitchen and went to watch television. That was Dad. He got us to eat, showed us you could make something from anything, and went about his evening.

I enjoyed many a meal at Dad’s magic hand.

As time went on I got married, had kids and cooked my own meals. I made Lazy Housewife’s French Toast (just regular toast with butter, cinnamon and sugar). Sound familiar? I made grilled PB&J. I made elaborate lasagnas. I made ordinary, run-of-the-mill pork chops.

But when Dad came to dinner at my house, things were different. No cooked onions, only raw. Have you ever tried making ANYTHING without onion? He would find any trace and pick them out and put them at the edge of his plate for me to see.. OH, the guilt! No beef. Dad was not a fan. Thought it had too much fat. Only real butter. No margarine. That would be un-American! He had simple tastes, which resulted in his being a picky eater. So when Gido (that’s what my kids called him) came for dinner, it was pasta, a chicken cutlet pounded paper thin, or soup. For dessert there would be lemon meringue pie and coffee.

But as “Dad” aged and became pickier, “Gido” showed up at my house with “Gido food” and my kids loved the fare he brought. He would arrive with two dozen loaves of fresh Pita bread still warm from the bakery. My kids still call it “Gido bread.” Also, a large bag of JAX (cheese doodles by an assumed name) and two cases of small plastic bottles filled with various flavors of sugary drink (predecessors to the juice box). Mine were the only kids on the block to have not only a “Gido,” but all the snacks that came along with him. All very cool and very “Gido.” “Gido food” was very different from “Dad food,” I’d noticed. No pancakes and mashed potatoes for these kids!

But the “Gido food” that has stayed with this family of mine throughout generations is the watermelon. Most kids get a bang out of spitting the seeds and seeing how far they’ll go. Not my kids. As far as they are concerned watermelon has no seeds…never has…never will. Before the advent of the seedless watermelon ours had no seeds. Why? Because Gido sat down and removed every single, solitary one before we ever got a taste. He would sit for hours slicing and picking out seeds with the tip of his knife. He considered them a choking hazard. (I think I mentioned his patience before). He did it for my sister and me and he did it for my kids but guess what? He’d set the bar high.  Now I got to sit picking out seeds with the tip of my knife for hours at a time because my kids would only eat watermelon without seeds. Soon the phenomenon extended to my husband and close friends. Nobody who ate watermelon at my house expected, nor would they tolerate, seeds. They pointed them out with annoyance if one should slip by my scrutiny and my knife. Thank you Mr. Farm Person who invented seedless watermelon, but it didn’t work. They don’t like the little white ones either!

In addition to the many legacies left by my father, we have “Gido bread,” watermelon without seeds, and the ability to make a meal out of absolutely anything in a fridge.  Thanks Dad!

Thanks, Mom for your lovely contribution!  If anyone would like to post here, shoot me an email!  I’m trying to fill up November while I NaNo.  Thanks for reading and have a nice night!  (By the way, watermelon comes with seeds??  The horror! I still love a piece of pita with cinnamon, sugar, and butter, and those little plastic sugar water drinks were AWE-SOME.  Especially the purple ones.)

Weekly Photo Challenge: Nostalgic

This week’s Daily Post Weekly Photo Challenge is to show “Nostalgic.” You can see the post here. I thought books, especially old books like this set on our shelf, would work.

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Have a nice weekend!

Gram’s Patriotism

Happy 4th of July!

I wanted to share a quick post tonight about my paternal grandmother, Dorothy. Her life was a story, but tonight I want to share something I learned about her in her death.

When “Gram” died a couple of years ago at the age of 88, she had planned her entire funeral down to the smallest detail. She’d picked a casket, a dress, planned the wake and the funeral mass. She’d done it all– except name someone to do her eulogy.

My brother and cousins were either too distraught or too intimidated to do the eulogy so they recruited me to do it, the eldest grandchild. I drafted a five minute speech summarizing my forty years of memories of my grandmother. When I was finished drafting it, I gave it to my dad to review for dates, names, and other information I wasn’t sure of.

Dad came back with comments like, “well, why didn’t you say [fill in the blank]” and “why didn’t you mention [fill in the blank].” Of course, his memories and knowledge of his mother were different than mine of my grandmother, but it was my eulogy, not his, so I pretty much stuck to my guns. Except for one thing.

He asked why I didn’t mention that she was patriotic.

“Huh?” I said. I’d never really thought of Gram as patriotic. Sure, she bought poppies from the vets on Memorial Day and hung them on her car’s rearview mirror. And yeah, I guess I’d seen flags around. I probably could connect her obsessive interest in news and the justice system to patriotism (she watched every minute of the O.J. Simpson trial and often had Court TV or CNN on the television). I didn’t really get it though.

Then my dad pointed out what I already knew. My Grandfather was in World War II during the early years of their marriage. Twenty years or so later, my grandmother’s only two children went into the armed forced during the Vietnam War– one enlisted and one drafted. I can’t imagine what she went through during these periods:  first, as a young bride and mother praying for her husband’s safe return; and then, a mere couple of decades later, watching both of her sons go to war. Having a husband at war must have been horribly difficult, but to have to do it over with your children just seemed cruel. All those years were spent hoping and praying for the three men in her life, not knowing how they fared and not having any control over the outcome.

When I thought about this, I wondered how she didn’t go crazy. Why she wasn’t angry. I’d never once heard her complain about the war years and she never talked about the worry or stress she felt over the safety of her husband or sons. How did she get through?

The only answer I could come up with was faith. Faith in God, but also faith in her country– trusting that those in charge would make the right decisions and keep her family safe. Patriotism is not only loving your country, but believing in it and trusting it to take care of us.

After I delivered the eulogy and the service ended we all started to leave the church. As she had chosen all of the music for her funeral mass, Gram had chosen the exit song, too.  She’d picked “God Bless America.” A few days earlier I would have been surprised by her choice but that day as I walked out of the church with my family, I understood and I felt proud.

Have a nice night and thanks for reading.

Roller Boogie

Back in the early 1980’s roller skating was huge, in my part of the world at least. I think it started with Roller Boogie, a 1979 film starring Linda Blair (of The Exorcist).

Best.

Movie.

Ever.

Okay, maybe not “ever,” but pretty freakin’ awesome.

Roller Boogie!

Roller Boogie was the tale of Terry Barkley (Blair) and Bobby James (played by real-life competitive roller skater Jim Bray). She was a rich girl on her way to Juilliard to study classical flute, and he wanted to be an Olympic Roller Skater (I kid you not). She’s bitchy and he’s cute (albeit, a terrible actor). After shenanigans, this unlikely duo ended up having to save their beloved Venice Beach roller rink from mobsters by competing in a “Roller Boogie” contest. Of course he has to train her to roller skate because she’s god awful and guess what happens?

They hook up. Shocking I know. But in true 70’s form, they go their separate ways at the end, her to Juilliard, and him to Olympic Roller Skating training (is there a camp for that?). Pics:

Those costumes! That hair! The makeup!
The Cool Kids

If you’re having a hard time imagining, think Dirty Dancing but unwatchable (unless you were an eight-year-old girl from New Jersey, because I loved this movie and wanted to alternate between being Terry Barkley and Sandy from Grease at that point ). Do you see the parallels between the two movies? Snarky Handsome Man meets Uptight Bitchy Woman. Man has skill. Woman must learn skill. Man and Woman fall in love. Man and Woman master skill and good will ensues. Man and Woman part with memories, changed people. (How many movies fit that pattern?)

Back to roller skating. After Roller Boogie, my parents bought me a pair of metal skates– the kind with no shoe attached. The skate was basically a metal frame that fit around your sneaker, with four clanky metal wheels (lined up in pairs, young’uns, not rows like you may remember). I loved to tie those skates on and skate up and down our driveway, back and forth on Blue Hill Road, attempting spins and one-legged maneuvers like Terry Barkley.

Vintage Roller Skates

Eventually, my metal frame skates were replaced with super cool sneaker skates. They were actual sneakers with rubber wheels attached.

Sneaker skates (I think this may be the actual pair I had!)

Then, Utopia. The United Skates of America came to be in Wayne, New Jersey. Heaven. Every Saturday Mom would drop us off for open skate. The roller rink. A place of fun, glory, exercise, and potential lawsuits.

Pre-teens and teens from surrounding towns that seemed like foreign countries gathered for their skating sessions. The dark rink had spinning disco lights and giant speakers, a carpeted area in the center for resting and doing “tricks,” a “penalty box” for the troublemakers, and super cute highly skilled “refs” who wore black and white striped shirts and had whistles to keep everyone in line.

Skaters circled the rink, counterclockwise, except for the dreaded clockwise “reverse skate,” which caused my cross-over turning method to feel awkward and just wrong. “Reverse skate” was not to be confused with “backwards skate,” which entailed going counterclockwise, but back first. It took me a while to master that skill. Despite my vast experience, I was never fully comfortable on the skates. I held my own and kept all bones intact, content staying on my feet and people watching. My brother, however, was a maniac, lapping around the rink like a crazy person.

The roller rink was a tweeny girl’s paradise. My friends and I loved watching the boys. The better the skater, the dreamier the crush. We all loved the refs and anyone else who could skate backwards and do spins. They had celebrity status in our minds and we obsessed like the paparazzi. Since we attended our session every week, we’d get to “know” the regulars– the crushes, the refs, the couples. If a couple we liked to stalk wasn’t skating the “couples’ skate” together (usually an Air Supply song played for the “couples’ skate”) there’d be a lot of talk as to why.

The disco lights would flash and spin to the beats of the best music of the day. A favorite was Hall and Oates “Private Eyes.” As you skated to this song, whenever you heard a clap you were supposed to jump. “Private eyes,” (jump), “they’re watching you” (jump/jump), etc. Even today when I hear that song, I think of the word “jump” during each chorus. Queen was popular too.

USA’s popularity soared in the early 80’s. I even hosted a birthday party there (it was my 11th birthday and I wore a pink shiny sweats ensemble and forced my mom to do my hair in Princess Leia buns). By that point, my parents had bought me white boot skates with red wheels. They were laced up with rainbow glitter shoelaces and sported giant red pom poms on the toes. It was a good look. I loved those skates. Still, it didn’t stop me from visiting the USA Skate Shop in the carpeted part of the building (industrial carpet so you could still skate on it) when I needed a break from the craziness of the rink. Breaks could also be had at the skate-up snack bar. Always a challenge to skate with a tray full of hot dogs and soda!

Mine looked like this, but way cooler!

At some point in the mid-80’s our USA closed. I don’t recall if I outgrew it before then, or if the closing came as a surprise. I still have a lot of nice memories from those days though. I don’t know if there’s anything like that for kids today. A place where parents can drop off the kids and know they’ll be (relatively) safe. A place where friends can hang out and socialize and eat and drink and listen to music. Even get some exercise. The closest I can come up with in today’s world is the mall. Boring!

Let’s bring the roller rink back to its popularity of the late 70’s! Maybe a Roller Boogie remake is the answer! It certainly wouldn’t hurt. Wonder if Jim Bray is still skating these days and available . . . . hmmm . . . .

Thanks for reading and have a nice night.

[Sources:  Movie Poster pic:  http://www.impawards.com/1979/posters/roller_boogie.jpg; Movie pics:  http://s3.amazonaws.com/auteurs_production/images/film/roller-boogie/w448/roller-boogie.jpeg?1320051665  and http://blog.artdivastudios.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/1325875103-film_roller_boogie_screen_shot_cap_shirt_1970.jpeg; Vintage Roller Skates pic:  http://img1.etsystatic.com/000/0/5773142/il_fullxfull.126998965.jpg; Sneaker skates pic:  http://img2.etsystatic.com/000/0/5513500/il_fullxfull.154217638.jpg; Boot roller skate pic:  http://crashtestmommy.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/rollerskate1.jpg]

Weekly Photo Challenge: Change

My first attempt at the Daily Post’s Weekly Photo Challenge. The topic is “Change.” See the Challenge here.

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Black River & Western Railroad
Ringoes, New Jersey

Have a nice weekend!

The Rhythm of the Seasons

As my husband drove our family to North Jersey for Easter dinner, we listened to sports radio, a-flutter with news of basketball (both college and the NBA) and opening day for baseball. We chatted that we couldn’t believe that baseball was starting up again, and that tomorrow is April. “The rhythm of the seasons,” my husband said.

I thought about that phrase over and over as we drove up the Turnpike. I remembered the days when the years went by so slowly. The school year seemed to last forever. December and Christmas always felt so far away. The time between birthdays stretched endlessly.

Baseball already, I thought. How did that happen? The season just ended yesterday. Didn’t I recently put away the Christmas decorations? Now there we were, going to Easter dinner. Sports talk continued. March Madness again? Another Final Four? Another NBA post-season? Why is everything happening in the blink of an eye?

I thought of the words again.  The rhythm of the seasons.

The seasons keep turning and dragging us along with them, whether we are ready to move on or not. Time relentlessly moves forward without granting a pause or a break to catch our breath. The rhythm keeps the beat steady, even when our minds and bodies can’t keep up with the song.

As we approached the Meadowlands on our trip today, we traveled along the New York City skyline. I automatically gazed to my right to check on the Freedom Tower, a work still in progress. I thought about my nephew– he was five when the Towers fell, and soon he’s graduating high school. My husband commented that each year that he teaches his high school kids, it gets more and more difficult for them to remember that day. They were babies.

Yet I remember that day like it was yesterday. Every detail. I can tell you exactly where I was on Rt. 280 East and exactly what Howard Stern was talking about when he and I both learned of the news together. I remember what my husband and I, newly-married at the time did that night. I remember the calls I made and the people I worried for and I remember the news.  The never-ending news that so many of us obsessed over.

Now almost twelve years later, I am still moved by that site every time I travel the Turnpike. Reflexively I look to the site, where it seems like just yesterday the smoke rose into the sky everyday on my commute to work. These days, instead of smoke the incomplete Freedom Tower creeps upward into the sky, desperately trying to stand tall and help us move on. Somehow, in my memory, I can recall details from 2001 even now in 2013, but I can’t recall how I got here. How did we move on from that? I am not sure we have or ever will.

But the rhythm of the seasons carries us through life. Now though, instead of wanting to push the years through, hurry the birthdays, and build the new tower, I want to slow it down. I want to hit “pause” and take a breather. I want to turn the ballet of my life from an allegro into an adagio and concentrate and remember and experience the detail in terms of quality instead of quantity.

But maybe that’s not how life works. Maybe as we get older, time travels by more quickly because that’s just how it is. There’s no brake pad, no downshifting.

Is there a secret to slowing it all down? If you know the secret, I’d appreciate your advice. I’d sure like to slow down my kids because those buggers keep growing.  I want to slow down my birthdays, because I’m not getting any younger.  I want to slow down the baseball season, because I don’t want to blink and have to decorate for Halloween, then Christmas, and then think about Easter dinner again.  So where’s that “pause” button, Blogtropolis?

Thanks for reading and tolerating my pensive mood.