If I Ran the World

If I Ran the World,

  • The work week would be four days. People would be more efficient because they’d know they only have four days to get their work done, and they’d be grateful for the three-day weekends. Think about it.
  • Grocery stores would be designed so you’d walk into the dry foods section, then proceed up and down aisles to refrigerated/frozen, then produce, and then end up at the check out. This way your frozen stuff stays frozen and your produce is on top of the cart, not squished under the water bottles.
  • Doctors’ hours would be from noon until 8:00 every weekday, then 9-12 on two Saturdays a month. Doesn’t it just make sense?
  • Do kids really need homework? Thinking of banning homework. It stresses everyone out. Instead, I’d make them read and journal at night.
  • I’d fix the whole Christmas thing.
  • Superbowl Sunday would be on Saturday.
  • Commercials must go. Except on Superbowl Saturday.
  • I’d put money towards the following inventions: electric cars that everyone can afford, automatic dog walking robots (like the one on Wallace and Gromit), technology that moves clothes from the washer to the dryer so you don’t have to, and a decent stapler that never jams.
  • Coffee shops would deliver.
  • Internet-free days. I’d shut off the internets for one day a month. Do what you did back in the 70’s and 80’s, and/or be present in the real world.
  • Libraries would be open all night and have comfortable seating, not those institutional wooden chairs.
  • Siestas. Every day, for everyone.
  • Get out of Life Free Cards- One day per year. Hand in your card. Disappear. No rules for twenty-four hours. Do what you want. Refresh, revive, rejuvenate.
  • Movies from your home. Like, subscribe to AMC for one month and watch what is currently in release from wherever you’d like.
  • Every person would have to donate a penny a day to the Charity of the Week. At 318.9 million people in the U.S. at one penny per day, times 7 days per week, that’s about $22 million bucks to the Charity of the Week. Think of all the pennies on the floor of your car that can be put to good use. No need to dump ice over your head (unless you want to).

I’m taking suggestions! If you have anything you’d like to add to the list, let me know. I’ll keep a running spreadsheet in case I ever get appointed as EMPRESS OF ALL THINGS. 🙂

Thanks for reading. Now I wave my wand (would an Empress of All Things have a wand?) and give you permission to take a siesta!

Superbowl Saturday, anyone?

(Pic: https://cbsbaltimore.files.wordpress.com/2012/09/generic_football.jpg?w=420&h=280 )

My First Writers’ Conference- NJRW Put Your Heart in a Book Conference

This past weekend, I had the good sense to attend the New Jersey Romance Writers Annual Put Your Heart In A Book Conference (click HERE for link). Two days of writerly information on the craft and the industry of romance writing! Thought I’d share a little summary.

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On Friday morning, I attended an editing workshop hosted by the famous-in-writing-circles Margie Lawson. As a psychotherapist and an editor, Margie uses “psychologically-based editing systems and deep editing techniques to create page turners” (that’s from her website). I learned a lot from this workshop, most importantly that my current Work in Progress (“WIP”) needs some deep editing and may actually suck. More on the WIP another time. The three-hour workshop flew by and I have endless notes to digest and use when I hop into my WIP.

Friday afternoon I took the following workshops: The Three Letters that Make a Career Y-E-S, with Sarah MacLean; The Three Stages of Book Promotion, with Maria Connor; The In-The-Know Guide to Indie Publishing, with Judi Fennell; and The Ins and Outs of Facebook for Authors, with Joanna Shupe.

Sarah’s presentation was a wonderful recounting of her writing journey. She’s a huge deal in the romance writing world, yet she had such a witty, down-to-earth style. Her talk was informative and inspirational and a great way to start off the conference–especially after attending the Margie Lawson editing workshop and acknowledging my own suckiness! Always learning, right? Sarah’s basic message was to open yourself up to the possibilities, don’t be afraid to push the limits of your writing, and to consider writing your “work” by valuing your writing time and making it a priority.

I thought Maria’s presentation on book promotion would make me twitch from fear and dread. I mean, who knows how to promote themselves? Even celebs have people who do that stuff for them. Luckily, she had chocolate for us, so I indulged and planted myself in my seat, ready to delve into the world of marketing. The session went well and I learned lots of stuff. People had questions. There were a lot of people who seemed frazzled by the idea of marketing, so it wasn’t just me. While her presentation was informative and helpful, I wish it were longer, like half a day, or at least a two session block.

Judi’s indie publishing presentation was so helpful. Conducted as a question and answer session, Judi, a successful hybrid author (that means traditionally and self-published) answered any and all of our questions. How often do writers get to sit with someone with her level of success and shoot questions at them? Not very often. We took advantage. I made notes. I panicked. I calmed down.

Next up, the dreaded Facebook. Anyone who knows me also knows how much I absolutely hate Facebook. Like HATE in all caps, hate. I think it will be the downfall of all the world (yeah, I said it). ALL THE WORLD. Which is exactly why I felt I needed to go to this talk. Did I learn stuff? Yeah. But it was way over my head. I didn’t think it appropriate to raise my hand and be like, “How do you log in again?” when people were asking questions about ads and “algorithms” and fancy things like that. So in general, it was helpful to everyone but I was in way over my head. Next year maybe I’ll try again after I slog through the Facebook for Dummies book.

After a Friday evening cocktail hour and awards ceremony, during which I mingled with agents, authors, and other writerly and creative people, I was back to it bright and early Saturday morning.

Saturday started with breakfast with Keynote Speaker Kerrelyn Sparks. I loved hearing her touching account of her writing journey and how her past experiences influenced her widely-popular vampire books. From there, I went to a special presentation on dialogue with Julia Quinn. (Note: In this paragraph, I’ve named two amazing best-selling authors, by the way.) Julia was helpful and funny, and we kept taking her off the dialogue track and asking questions about everything under the writing sun.

Next, I had agent appointments. This was interesting- sort of like speed dating for authors. A bunch of agents and editors, like maybe twenty or so, sat in a big room, each at their own little table. They had a name plate on their table for identification purposes. In ten minute intervals, a group of authors entered the room, found their preassigned editor/agent, sat at the table in front of them, and pitched their book.

Let me explain.

So I was fortunate to get two appointments. My first was at 10:15 with an agent from a well-respected agency. I was corralled into the room with the other 10:15 authors, frantically searched for my agent’s name on one of the name plates, then sat in front of her. After a quick intro, I told her about my story and fielded her questions about my characters and plot. Timekeepers told us when time was up, and we were rushed out the back doors for the next group of authors coming in the front. My next appointment was at 10:35, so basically I exited, then circled around to wait in the holding pen with the 10:35 group, and did it all over again with another agent.

For some authors waiting in the holding pen, this was the most nerve-wracking event of their lives. I get that. It was high anxiety, that’s for sure. I have to admit I kind of enjoyed it. I’m psyched for the book I wrote and was happy to talk about it. Despite the fact that the agents weren’t sold on the genre I assigned to my book, the two agents I met said they liked my concept and asked me to send them my first three chapters. I take that as a win.

In a post-agent-speed-dating coma, I next attended From Desolate Moors to Dark Alleys: The Art of Writing Romantic Suspense, with Dee Davis. Do I write romantic suspense? I didn’t think so. I thought I wrote contemporary. But after the agent meetings and genre-confusion I wasn’t exactly sure WHAT I wrote, so I thought what the heck, and gave this one a shot. I learned a ton of basics about plotting, pacing, and characters, and didn’t realize how challenging romantic suspense could be, in that both the romance and the suspense must carry equal weight throughout the book. I may give this a shot someday.

Lunch featured speaker Beth Ciotta, who shared her author journey, which was like none other I’d heard. She didn’t start writing until her 40’s and in the past fifteen to twenty years has had ups and downs like you wouldn’t believe. But the message I took from her talk was if you love it, persevere and do it. Any way you can.

I should also mention that every time we sat for a meal our chairs were covered in free books. There was free stuff (“swag”) everywhere. Fun, fun, fun!

I had plans for after lunch seminars but ended up going back to Sarah MacLean (since I’m now fangirling her) for her presentation, Mastering the Art of Great Conflict. Amazing. Love her and her insights. One of her themes was if you have a high concept idea you love but it seems totally wacky, write it anyway. She named a number of her favorite books and described their bonkers plots–yet the books ended up being best sellers. She called such high concept writing “writing from a place of fear.” Some of my other notes from her talk include “Be fearless, take risks,” “If your hero is a fireman, your heroine should be an arsonist,” and “If no conflict, what’s the point?” Mostly I just listened and absorbed like a sponge.

Finally, I attended the Anonymous Author reading. What is this? Well, prior to attending the conference, attendees had the option to email a conference coordinator the first 250 words of their book. At the AA reading event, a panel of agents and editors sits at a long table while your 250 words are read to them (and the audience) anonymously. They don’t know it’s yours. Nobody does. The reader reads your work and then the agents/editors give you their first impressions.

This was neat. While I did submit my words, they didn’t get to my entry due to time constraints. But it was helpful to hear the panel’s reaction to the other works that were read, the good and bad.

By then, I was exhausted and ready to go home. I stopped for a quick latte and headed back to real life. But my weekend was perfect. I learned a lot, I had fun, I felt like a real author for the first time. I made friends and connected with people. I talked with New York Times Bestselling authors (Julia Quinn, people!). I have a new girl crush on Sarah MacLean. I have two requests for pages from agents and about a dozen new books to read on my nightstand.

The best thing I’ve done to pursue a writing career is hook into Romance Writers of America and its New Jersey Chapter, NJRW. If any NJRW people are reading this, thank you for the amazing experience, and I can’t wait for next year!

Who’s coming with?

Looking for a Good Book? Check out Erin Rhew’s THE FULFILLMENT!

I’ve met a lot of interesting people as I’ve delved into the writing world. One of the coolest people I’ve met is author Erin Rhew.

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Author Erin Rhew

I know–she’s gorgeous and has purple hair. Lucky for us, instead of pursuing modeling she became a writer and wrote this amazing series called The Fulfillment Series. Book Three, The Fulfillment released on October 15th. Check out this cover and blurb!

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The Fulfillment, by Erin Rhew

Layla’s world tumbles out of control when she discovers the truth of her parentage and realizes the Prophecy—the one she upended her entire life to defend—is incomplete. When her new friends share the entire Prophecy, the revelations contained within it alter her destiny and challenge everything she and Wil believe in. Now, she must confront the Outlander queen to save the Ethereal kingdom while grappling with this new reality.

Tortured and imprisoned, Nash accepts his fate and offers the First Ones the one thing he has left to give: his life. In a desperate attempt to save the people he loves most, he surrenders himself to the Outlander queen and a destiny darker than he could have ever dreamed possible.

Wil, tormented by the consequences of his choices, realizes he may never be able to uphold his end of the Prophecy. His mistake casts a deep, foreboding shadow over his kingdom and those he loves, while its ripples threaten to shatter both the Prophecy and everything he and his family have sworn to protect.

In this epic conclusion, lives are lost, kingdoms clash, friendships are tested, and love and fate collide.

Amazing, yes? When I learned that The Fulfillment was on its way, I wanted to check out the series, so for 99 cents I downloaded the first book, The Prophecy, from Amazon. I became completely immersed in the book and read it in about a day. I wrote this casual review on my Goodreads page:

I know I’m late to the game reading The Prophecy (The Fulfillment Series #1 by Erin Rhew), but with The Fulfillment (Book 3 of the series) on its way to release in a couple of weeks, I wanted to catch up!

I loved reading this book, imagining the world Ms. Rhew created, and falling in love with the characters. I thought I’d have a hard time keeping up, since fantasy isn’t my usual genre, but I had no problem. Ms. Rhew does a great job of keeping the voice of each character separate and adding enough description that a clear picture was created in my head from first introduction. I read this book and it played through my mind like a movie– the castles, the dungeon, the maze, the woods, it’s all in my head.

I enjoyed how Layla’s strength and femininity, Wil’s noble gentleness and cuteness, and Nash’s internal struggles and hotness, made for a love triangle that I’m not entirely sure who I’m rooting for! (TeamWho??? Help!). Usually I can figure out who’s going to get the girl from page one, but the love triangle in The Prophecy reminds me of that in the early seasons of The Vampire Diaries–you end up rooting for two guys and fall in love with them both.

Don’t even get me started on the last chapter. I couldn’t believe the scene Ms. Rhew left us in at the end of Book 1! Honestly, I was almost angry at her 🙂 However, I’m thankful that I can order Book 2 TODAY so I can continue the story. Heck, I may as well preorder Book 3 now, since I’m completely hooked.

I’m in the middle of Book 2, The Outlanders and love it, but I can’t wait to get to Book 3 to see how the series wraps up. I know I’ll be sad when it’s over.

If you’d like to check out the series, I’ve made it easy for you. Click on these links: Amazon or Barnes and Noble – Both The Prophecy and The Outlanders are 99 cents on Amazon, so it won’t break the bank either. Join me in catching up and then tell me what you think!

More on Erin:

Erin Rhew is an editor, a running coach, and the author of The Fulfillment Series. Since she picked up Morris the Moose Goes to School at age four, she has been infatuated with the written word. She went on to work as a grammar and writing tutor in college and is still teased by her family and friends for being a member of the “Grammar Police.”

A Southern girl by blood and birth, Erin now lives in a rainy pocket of the Pacific Northwest with the amazingly talented (and totally handsome) writer Deek Rhew and their “overly fluffy,” patient-as-a-saint writing assistant, a tabby cat named Trinity. She and Deek enjoy reading aloud to one another, running, lifting, boxing, eating chocolate, and writing side-by-side.  

I’d add the following to this bio: She’s super sweet and incredibly helpful to new authors, always willing to share her expertise. She’s fun to follow on Twitter and Facebook (clink to open a new page and check her out) because she shares her life with her readers and fans. She also blogs at blog.erinrhewbooks.com.

As always, thanks for reading and enjoy the rest of your weekend!

When the Bottom Beckons

So many people say they want to write or create, but can’t get started. Some start, but then can’t finish. Recently, I had a conversation with an aspiring writer friend about her struggles to get started. I got the impression that she thought writing was easy for me or that I had some special powers.

I certainly don’t have a secret portal where I stop time and write, so I really thought about how I’ve managed time and came up with a visual.

For me, it’s like there are two layers of life: one on top, and one on bottom. The top layer is all the stuff. All the things of all the days–family, work, the schedule, home projects, walking the dog, feeding the kids, homework, laundry, laundry, laundry, obligations, appointments, etc. The bottom layer is where I get to me, just for me, all about me, selfishly for me.

IMG_5524Mostly for me, this bottom layer is writing. But for you, it may be anything you love that doesn’t fit into that top layer, maybe because you think it’s indulgent. It may be something creative or something personal, but it’s something that fills your soul. Your big secret love. You think about it all the time, but since it’s something that keeps you from attending to the top layer, you push it aside.

I love the top layer, I do, and I recognize its importance. It’s on the top for a reason. But no matter how much I love the top layer, it doesn’t remove my love for the bottom layer.

Maybe some people think that one who loves and devotes time to the bottom layer must not love the top layer enough. Some people may think getting to the bottom layer is selfish and/or indulgent.

But guess what I’ve learned? It’s not a competition between the top and the bottom. Ideally, you find a way to satisfy both layers, and . . . ready for this . . . not feel guilty.

I believe a full life can be had on the top and if people are truly happy up there, then great. Hang out on the top and live the life you want to live. Sometimes, though, for some of us, that bottom beckons. Why is it so hard to dive through the top and check out the bottom?

For one thing, people get caught up in the top layer, understandably so. Some people, no matter how much they want it, no matter the draw to the bottom, they simply can’t get out of the top layer. There’s just too much to do, too many appointments, too many responsibilities and the schedule doesn’t allow movement. Twenty-four hours isn’t enough, and the top layer can take up the whole darn day. Time fills up quickly.

Other people have the time, but something stops them from escaping the top layer. Maybe they’re afraid to let go of the top and head to the bottom. The top is where you can fill your life with the things. As mentioned, I think filling your life on the top is perfectly fine. It’s safe, it’s admirable, it’s productive. It’s where you are validated.

It’s easier to float on the top than to dive into the deep unknown. You may have to be vulnerable on the bottom, you may have to deal with failure, you may have to push yourself as a beginner. You may get to the bottom and struggle, when maybe on the top, you’re an expert.

But I also think there’s a group that hangs on top because they never discovered their bottom. They don’t know what fills their souls in that selfish, secret love type of way. Maybe they try to check it out down there, but the bottom can be scary. It’s where you have to know yourself aside from the stuff on the top that may define you.

On some days, I get stuck on top, happy and voluntarily. On others, I desperately try to dive to the bottom but get stuck on top, regardless. Yet I find that on most days, I sacrifice things on top to get to the bottom–I skip a lunch date, I stay up late even though I know I have to get up early (to take care of top layer stuff), I don’t clean a closet or do a desperately-needed chore. Dust builds, clothes pile up, I forget to call X about Y. A text message or email goes unanswered.

For the longest time, I had guilt over this. Weren’t the top things the things that mattered most? Especially as a woman and a mother, this is drilled into our heads–our families have to be smiling, our friends attended to, our kids should be busy and our spouse as happy as he or she can possibly be, in a home as perfect as we can make it. Oh, and go to work, too, and make some money! Lean in, people!

IMG_5521 (1)ARGH! No wonder it’s so hard to get to the bottom!

Writing, for me, isn’t a top layer thing. It’s not like words magically appear in my head and find their way to the laptop as I move through my days. I have to get to the bottom and then I have to work for it. Every word written is a challenge, every minute I devote to writing, a privilege.

No matter what your bottom is, if you want to indulge it (and repeat after me: indulgence is not a bad word), you can. I truly believe that. By making the choice, putting in the effort, and finding love for yourself and whatever your bottom may be, time comes along. For some who are overwhelmed on top, the dive to the bottom takes a lot of effort and sacrifice. Maybe too much. I get that and I’m sorry.

But if the bottom beckons, I suggest trying to check it out, even if you have to sacrifice just a bit. Now that I’ve stopped trying to be perfect on top and realized that on the bottom I get to write, let me tell you–it’s magic down there. And honestly, I truly believe my time on the bottom helps me be better on the top.

I hope that you all find a way to explore the bottom, too.

Thanks for reading 🙂